“As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” –Nelson Mandela
When and where does it meet?
We meet the second Monday of each month at The Women’s Choice Center (2711 Happy Joe Drive, Bettendorf IA 52722 upstairs in the conference room) from 7-8:30pm. If you are late, text two-one-seven, 4-9-4-7-2-3-6, and someone can come grab the door for ya. (Updated as of January 2017)
Yes! The second Monday of EVERY month. I will update this page if anything ever changes and if you have any additional questions after reading through these FAQ’s, please contact me.
Why did The Bearing Hope Support Group start?
We lost our first six babies through miscarriage. After our first loss, I felt alone and hopeless. My pain felt invalidated by the outside world. I felt like so few people understood. As I started sharing our loss with others, I was blown away by the comfort and validation I found. I was so far from the only one grieving the loss of a baby. Sadly, it was everywhere.
People reassured me that it was okay to hurt. I can’t tell you how freeing that was. Talking with others quieted the lies in my head that said my story wasn’t important.
My heart broke as I realized how many were hurting through infertility, miscarriage, failed adoption, and infant loss. God birthed a desire in my heart to see people come together and share their stories. I knew that through this sharing, people would be validated and freed from shouldering their burdens alone.
When did it start?
The first meeting was the second Monday of June, 2014 at Panera Bread in Davenport. One girl came and we shared our stories with one another. We read our favorite Psalms. We prayed. It was so life-giving to both of us, and Joanna has been attending every month since. She is my co-leader of the group and I’m so thankful for her courage and her heart through deep loss. We plan on continuing to meet once a month until…forever?
What does a typical Bearing Hope meeting look like?
The group usually opens with a prayer and little devotional thought (a story). Then, women have a chance to share their stories. There is no pressure to do this, but it’s encouraged because sharing your story brings healing.
Each person usually shares what they’ve been through and how they’re doing now. Sometimes they share how it has affected their marriage and/or other parts of their lives. Some have never been pregnant. Some have had one miscarriage. Some have had multiple. Some have lost infants.
A long time ago or just a week ago….the thing is, our stories are all different, but our desire to heal is the same. Biblical encouragement is offered and tears are almost always shed. (We have plenty of Kleenex to go around!)
It’s very low pressure and chill.
I always leave encouraged and carrying a renewed sense of purpose in my calling to pray for and support women going through the pain of infertility, miscarriage, and baby loss.
The girls who attend are open and kind-hearted. They love on one another so well.
Do I need to bring anything?
Nope! Just your rockin two feet and your (probably hurting) heart.
Are husbands invited?
As of right now, the meetings are specifically for females but we respect our husbands and work hard to build them up within the context of our conversations.
Why should you come?
If you are hurting through infertility, miscarriage, failed adoption, or infant loss … it’s going to be 624 times harder to walk through this valley alone.
God is with you, and He wants to connect with people who understand. When I first shared my deepest, most inmost hurts and people prayed for me, I experienced a huge amount of healing. And I want you to find the same comfort I did in community.
That’s why we meet and that’s why I write.