WHEN THE DARKNESS IS THICK

Life can be full of quite the ups and downs, can it not?! Surely we all have no trouble rejoicing and dancing and celebrating. But then there are the unspeakable circumstances. Shocking outcomes. Accidents. Illnesses. Betrayals. Traumas. Failures. Broken things. The fall was REAL, y’all. And we all feel the darkness of this world like […]

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ON WEEPING, WAILING, and WAITING

You are not alone

Lamentation (n): the passionate expression of grief or sorrow; weeping.   I went to a NAMI support group a couple nights ago because I’m a big believer in support groups when you’re hurting.   They remind you that you’re not alone. You can sit and cry and “get” each other without even speaking a word.   […]

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GOD AT WORK WEDNESDAY: SHANNON’S STORY

God at Work

Today you get the pleasure of meeting my beautiful friend, Shannon. She is bravely sharing her story with infertility in hopes of encouraging women walking in her shoes, as well as helping people recognize how they can help and support those going through this all too common season of waiting–the desert.  So without further adiu, Meet […]

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15 STEPS TO IN VITRO FERTILIZATION (IVF)

first mothers day

Today’s post is a little different than my usual! You’ll still find inspiration sprinkled about, but I’m doing a series called “Family Building Alternatives” where I will find an expert to answer technical questions about all sorts of alternatives you might consider to build your family. No alternative is a one size fits all–just keep […]

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ON WAKING UP THE MORNING AFTER LOSING YOUR FIRST BABY

On waking up

  J- As I woke up today, all I could think about was you. Just 24 hours ago, you woke up dreaming about what your future held. What if it’s twins?! You rolled over and whispered to your man with an adorable smile and mega morning breath, “today we get to see our baby!” You guys […]

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SIX YEARS AGO, I POSTED THIS AFTER LEARNING OUR FIRST BABY WAS GONE

This blog was originally written on April 15th 2010, the night after we got the most heartbreaking news a mommy can get. “I’m having trouble sleeping for the third night in a row. But tonight is a little different than the last two nights.  Today when we went into the doctor for our first prenatal […]

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MOTHER’S DAY IN THE DESERT

mothers day when you're waiting

Mother’s Day in the Desert of Waiting is the hottest. It’s the windiest, driest, hardest of days. It hurts. You’re reminded how empty your arms are. You are grieving. You are sad. I get it. It’s okay to stay in bed today. It’s okay to be angry. It’s okay to be not okay.  It’s also […]

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don’t sing songs to a heavy heart: support group

  I’ve learned a thing or two about grief through personal experience and even more through research for my book. My optimistic blondie natural tendency used to be “smile and throw some encouragement around.” Thank goodness I know better now or people would be making this face at me:   If you know someone going […]

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